i am happy to report that i have some new everyday friends. they are not new friends, but in the past months, i've noticed new life in these relationships. and i would like to celebrate here what i have come to treasure as a constant source of support and laughter and company.

an everyday friend is someone who knows your phone number by heart. they dial it often, and when you call them, you can jump into a sentence without even a hello. everyday friends know the names of your favorite students, your favorite salads, and all the men you are dating, wishing you could date, or want to erase from your dating history. they are the friends you have private jokes with, who laugh with you about stupid habits and sacred truths. they are the ones who have sit with you through the deepest pain, and love you still, with a determination that hopes when you cannot, and a vision that tells you you are moving forward, when it feels like time is standing still.


and part of the joy of life right now is knowing these women, whose company is like daily bread, yielding nourishment and stablility i need badly right now. and years from now, when my avacado tree is strong and tall, i will hope that it does not overshadow my lemons, and i will think of those who told me that that was the best spot.